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Sometimes great things come to me during my morning meditation. Here’s an excerpt of the email that is going out to my subscribers Friday morning, sparked by a meditation session:

You see that disclaimer with just about anything that is trying to sell a dream, weight loss programs especially and get rich schemes; anything that tries to circumnavigate actual effort; anything that wants us to ignore what we already know – that anything we want takes effort and work.

You know that saying we all heard as kids? Money doesn’t grow on trees (well, yes, actually it does, but I’m not trying to be a smartass here). Sometimes it was said in exasperation when we were careless with our things. Most often though, it occurred to me in this meaning: there are no handouts in life. You have to earn it.

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All About That App

This week I’m sharing apps that I use that have been beneficial in habit formation and my overall wellbeing. Most of them are free with upgrade potential and all are available via iTunes. I don’t know about Android compatibility, unfortunately.

  1. Momentum: this is a habit tracker. Well, you can track anything in it, but I use it for three specific habits: meditation, writing, and movement. It’s free for up to 3 habits, upgrading gives you an unlimited amount of items to track. What I particularly love about this app is the reminders. I have it set to remind me at 8 PM if I haven’t done my three habits. It actually saved me last night as I’d forgotten to get my movement quota in.
  2. Calm: this is my meditation app. I only use it as a timer which is free. The guided meditations are a paid upgrade. What I like about it is that you can set a theme which has background noise (I like rain). This is beneficial for those of us auditorially hyperactive as it masks life noises such as dryer buzzers, cars driving past with loud music, or the neighbor’s dog barking incessantly.
  3. MyFlo: a friend of mine just introduced me to this app, which is menstrual cycle tracker. This was $1.99 and it’s been totally worth the cost. It was designed by a fellow health coach and the insights have been really interesting, even for someone who studies hormone balance. One of the neat functions is that you can add your partner to it so that he is alerted to how you’re doing. If you have a super supportive partner, this could be really nice. Did you know that ALL women once they hit 35 are considered to be perimenopausal? I didn’t.
  4. Fitocracy: this one is a free fitness app with an accompanying website. I use both. It’s just a great way to track what, specifically, you are doing for exercise and it assigns points, kind of like a video game, which is nice if you’re a gold star collector. I’m still tickled when I level up and it’s neat that it notifies you when you’ve hit a PR. It’s also social so you can do challenges with your friends if you’re into that sort of thing.
  5. Spotify: Okay, this really isn’t habit related, but I REQUIRE music for many things. You can use it for free (with ads) but I highly recommend upgrading.
  6. Mint: Cleaning up my financial house has been something I’ve been working on diligently since last August and I could NOT do that without a budget and financial tracker. I check in every single morning which helps me stay in integrity with my spending and keeps me from burying my head in the sand when it gets tight.
  7. Thyme: this is a free timer, designed for cooking. It has 5 timers you can run simultaneously which is nice when batch cooking.
  8. Ibotta/Ebates: cash back on stuff you’re going to buy anyway? Yes, please.
  9. OurGroceries: I’ve been using this one for years, including when I had an Android phone so I know it’s available on that platform. It’s a grocery list that can be synced to the website AND it can be shared with family members, which is nice. Two things I’ve learned not to do is shop hungry or shop without a list.
  10. Evernote: I use this for many things including writing, to do lists, and saving articles/recipes. It’s a very useful tool. They’ve changed the pay structure for this recently so now you can use it on two devices for free. I’ve yet to max out the allowable storage per month – you’re allowed to store a certain amount each month new, not in total – which is better than some other cloud storage services.

That’s all for now. Have a great week, everyone!

Sunday Morning Appreciation

A couple years ago, I came across a man named Jesse Elder. He was a presenter in a symposium led by Ben Greenfield and while I cannot remember what drew me (Ben Greenfield is a well-known biohacker in the Paleo/Primal community, something that is just that side of too complicated for my tastes), what Mr. Elder had to say about fear led me to participate in two of his coaching programs. Long story short, one of the things that has stayed with me is the act of appreciation.

This concept wasn’t foreign to me. Years ago, while struggling to find a job, I learned about a book called 365 Thank Yous by John Kralik. The short synopsis is that he turned around the black hole that was his life through the simple act of expressing gratitude. I was so struck by it that I immediately started writing thank you notes to everyone. And while Mr. Kralik doesn’t go into it in the book, the act of gratitude and appreciation creates a distinct energetic shift that allows the good stuff to come to us.

Just like many people, I tend to forget how good I have it until it, whatever IT may be, is gone. I also know I can shift that tendency into active appreciation instead of using it as a knee jerk reaction to negative stimuli. So without further ado, here is MY Sunday Appreciation:

  1. I appreciate that there is birdsong, today, February 19th.
  2. I appreciate that it is nearly 50 degrees.
  3. I appreciate the quiet of the early morning.
  4. I appreciate that I can make decaf Bulletproof coffee.
  5. I appreciate that I live in a world where I have choices.
  6. I appreciate that there is a multitude of Paleo bloggers writing recipes so I don’t have to – here’s a great recipe for Simple Saag.
  7. I appreciate that I have not one but three jobs, two of which allow me to meet my and my child’s needs.
  8. I appreciate that my allopathic physician is just open-minded enough to hear what I have to say about certain supplements that are making a huge difference in my health.
  9. I appreciate that I’ve learned when to open my mouth and when to keep it shut.
  10. I appreciate you all.

Now I invite you to find your appreciation. Feel free to share in the comments. To paraphrase Mr. Elder, that which you appreciate appreciates. Have a lovely Sunday.

 

Hello 2017

“Who do you look up to? Who leads a life that you find interesting?”

These are questions I asked my 15 year old son on the way home from Christmas with my extended family. Of course, because I was asking him these questions, I had to consider it for myself.

There are many people I admire, whether it be for their professional success or how they show up in their personal lives. But the common thread throughout is this: they are UNAPOLOGETIC. They do things their way, no matter what the naysayers might think, and they show up, every single day.

Here’s the asterisk to that: just because I admire someone doesn’t mean I should do things the way they do them. Have you ever heard the saying “trying to fight a square peg into a round hole”? That’s exactly what it feels like when I try to do things someone else’s way.

Modeling yourself after someone doesn’t mean making yourself a cookie cutter copy. It means you look at their process. It means you look at what, specifically, draws you to that person. For me, it’s that these people are unapologetic and authentic that stands out.

Here’s a really good example: there is one woman who, when I look at her life and her business, I think “I want that”. I am not remotely like her. I’m an introvert, she’s an extrovert. She is supremely confident in her place in this world, her purpose, and who she wants to show up as. She is willing to look fear in the face and push forward anyway. I have those possibilities within me, as do you, but they’re still pretty buried beneath years of “be quiet, you’re too much, who do you think you are”. I find it very helpful to participate in her programs, listen to her podcast, and pay attention, not to WHAT she’s doing, but WHO she is as she’s doing it.

I feel it important to note that I’m not paying attention to WHAT she is doing because I don’t want to BE her. I’m NOT her and therefore shouldn’t do things the way she does. I don’t want to be anyone other than who I am, unapologetically and authentically, and this is something I’ve struggled with since I started coaching because I naively surrounded myself with loads of resources wanting to tell me exactly how to build my business and exactly how to run it. It all felt wrong and inauthentic and forced and I very nearly threw in the towel.

In the coming weeks, I’ll be making some changes to this site and to my social media accounts. “What Health Coaches Eat” is going away in favor of a more authentic URL, as much because health is about so much more than just food as because I have found “What Health Coaches Eat” to be a bit constricting (not something I’d considered when I so enthusiastically bought the URL and built this site around it a year ago). This will also allow for evolution: the evolution of my message, the evolution of my style of coaching, and the evolution of my products and services.

If you follow me on Instagram (@barbara_g_hyatt), you may have seen my post about my intentions for 2017: clarity and ease (not to be confused with “easy” – for me this means that I stop fighting what is). The coming changes are in alignment with these intentions and my hope is that with these changes, my role in all of your lives will also bring clarity and ease.

I’m ready for 2017, are you?

What Does “Enough” Mean?

What does %22enough%22 mean to you?

“Too often I see people focusing so hard on the final outcome (lose 10 pounds, squat 200, make six figures) and not enough on the process, the things they can control in the moment, right now. Then they become disappointed when the outcome takes longer to achieve than planned.” Steph Gaudreau

Steph Gaudreau, the woman behind Stupid Easy Paleo and the podcast Harder to Kill Radio, is one of my favorite people I’ve never met. She’s about as real as they come, isn’t afraid to rock the boat but isn’t controversial for the sake of controversy, and is PASSIONATE about teaching women the gift of strong bodies. I seriously can’t wait to meet her one day.

The above quote was taken from a video she posted sometime last week and that line smacked me in the forehead. It was one more nudge in a series of nudges I’ve had this year to scale back, stop chasing the future, stop chasing a body fat percentage, stop chasing the if/then or when/then. Silly me, I reached the “feel better” part of (or so I thought) of the mantra that got me started me and kept me on this path for the better part of 2 years and somehow forgot that just being off all of the medications wasn’t really the benchmark I thought I wanted.

Around the same time Steph posted that video, I got into a conversation with a friend and client around what “enough” means. Those two might seem like unrelated events, but bear with me.

Something I’ve realized in the past handful of months is that when all of the mud and muck are washed away, everything comes down to “enough” for me. Scarcity is a concept I grew up with and no matter how I try, it’s turning out to be harder to shake than I ever could have imagined. So this conversation about “enough” came down to this question: What does “I am enough” mean to me?

  • I feed my body in a way that is supportive of it’s needs
  • I move my body in ways that support it’s strength, it’s flexibility, it’s hormonal balance, and with the intent that I NOT require assistance in my old age
  • I am mindful of my emotions and my thoughts
  • I nurture my relationships and build strong social connections because I require that in order to thrive
  • I do things that scare me
  • I laugh daily
  • I know my value and the value of what I bring to the world

If you look closely, you’ll see that these actions are all process. They are the process behind the life I want to live. They are the path, the road, the map, whatever you want to call it. They are actions for the sake of themselves – like exercise for the sake of exercise instead of as a means of self-abuse, numbing, or avoidance.

This doesn’t mean don’t have goals, aspirations, or dreams. Quite the contrary. To paraphrase The Cheshire Cat, any road is good if you don’t know where you are going. You MUST know what you want in order to figure out what the path is. It’s a non-negotiable of a thriving life. The big lesson here is that knowing what you want isn’t enough. Yes, sometimes you can get there by just taking the next best step. As a matter of fact, I’ve used that method with great success. But consider this the set it and forget it method: know exactly what you want, then forget about it and focus on the process. Get so good at the process that you effortlessly replicate it. Get so good at the process that you won’t have to worry about how you keep whatever it is you wanted because you’ll just keep doing what you were doing. Get so good at the process that 50 years from now you have no regrets over having not done something because the process gave you the life you wanted to live.

Your turn: I’d love to hear what your version of “enough” includes. Post a comment here or jump over to the Facebook page and comment there, I’d love to hear from you.


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