An Exercise in Patience

I am not, by nature, a patient person. Unless we’re talking about babies with colic or some other malady that has them crying incessantly (and is not mine), in which case I can sit with, rock, walk with and/or snuggle said babies for hours to give mom and/or dad a reprieve. Don’t believe me? Ask my mother, I did this often as a teenager. But I digress…
I was discussing different metrics measured via blood test this morning with a loved one and how the information obtained doesn’t always tell the whole story, that often those numbers are an indicator of symptomology, not root cause. For example, high LDL is actually a symptom of PCOS, which makes sense when looking at the root cause of PCOS, that being metabolic syndrome. My LDL has been high for my entire adulthood, regardless of diet, including my 18 months as a vegan. If diet had been the cause, surely a vegan diet would have corrected it, yes?
Nope. As a matter of fact, it got worse. Per the current dietary recommendations from our esteemed government organizations and various big pharma-backed “medical” associations, it should have though.
We’ve all heard it: Rome wasn’t built in a day. But it is still very hard to be patient when we just want to hurry up and be healed already. It is a serious exercise in patience to attack the root cause of an illness. We don’t get sick overnight. It often takes years for these things to develop to the point where we exhibit any kind of symptoms and then we’re lucky if we get an accurate diagnosis right away.
It’s unrealistic for me or anyone else to expect to be healed overnight. And yet…
Here’s the upside to things taking time: when we focus on the progress, not the outcome, we are creating habits that are transferable. Think of it in terms of employment: when you want to change career paths, you focus on transferable skills. When we focus on the daily behaviors necessary for us to create healing, we’ve inoculated ourselves against relapse because those habits will then, ideally, be with us for the rest of our lives.
This also teaches us a great deal about our respective innate resiliency. When I’m feeling like I’m failing (which, by the way, is NOT the end of the world), this resiliency is quick to remind me of where I started. It’s quick to show me where I’ve been successful in long term journeys (motherhood anyone?).
My greatest hope is that my patience will pay off in resilience dividends. What I’m trying to create is a resilient body and mind and life. Everything I do, for the most part, is a step in that direction. Progress may be slow, but as long as I keep putting one foot in front of the other, I’ll get there eventually.
If you choose to walk a similar path, so will you.

Results May Vary

Sometimes great things come to me during my morning meditation. Here’s an excerpt of the email that is going out to my subscribers Friday morning, sparked by a meditation session:

You see that disclaimer with just about anything that is trying to sell a dream, weight loss programs especially and get rich schemes; anything that tries to circumnavigate actual effort; anything that wants us to ignore what we already know – that anything we want takes effort and work.

You know that saying we all heard as kids? Money doesn’t grow on trees (well, yes, actually it does, but I’m not trying to be a smartass here). Sometimes it was said in exasperation when we were careless with our things. Most often though, it occurred to me in this meaning: there are no handouts in life. You have to earn it.

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How MLM Fits (Or Doesn’t) Into My Practice

Pampered Chef
Tupperware
Mary Kay
Avon
Beauty Counter
Lularoe
Life’s Abundance
Young Living
Beachbody
doTerra

MLM businesses are extremely popular these days and for, I’m sure, good reason. It’s actually been suggested to me that in order to succeed in building a thriving health coaching practice, I need to sign on with an MLM company due to supposed passive income possibilities and the marketing training and support.

Perhaps this is true. For some, it likely is. Some (but not all) of the above mentioned companies are excellent to work with. I’ve been approached by women on the Beachbody, Life’s Abundance, and Beauty Counter teams and each of them thoroughly love the support, the products, and the extra income. I can’t argue with that, at all. And I’m not going to. This isn’t a rant against MLM at all.

I’ve thought about this long and hard. For me, I see it as a conflict of interest.

If I’m going to preach bioindividuality, I cannot, in good conscious, try to sell anyone on specific supplements or essential oils or skin care, etc. If I know anything it’s that just because it works for me does not, at all, mean that it’ll work for you.

I also have zero interest in what I see as growing elitism in the Paleo community. I may subscribe to many of the tenants of the Paleo lifestyle, but I sure as hell am not going to push products that cost the same as a week’s worth of groceries just because they are better for you.

Here’s the thing: there are no quick fixes. You cannot undo years of unhealthy habits in a 20 day challenge. You cannot undo years of unhealthy habits by taking specific supplements. You cannot undo years of unhealthy habits with an expensive serum.

I’ve had many women with PCOS ask me about supplementation and what I use. I always hesitate. I hesitate because my type of PCOS may not be the same as yours, making what I take a waste of money for you. I hesitate because I’m still doing a bit experimentation there myself and I don’t have all the answers. I hesitate because there are laws that I have to consider that vary by state – if you live in certain states, I cannot legally even suggest supplements. All I can do is point you towards the research and let you decide for yourself.

It is for these reasons that I see, for my practice, MLM as a conflict of interest. While I know better than to say “never,” I don’t see MLM as having a place within my practice at this time. I would far rather focus on the behaviors that created the issues you want to correct than pushing products promising the world.

Remember, consistency is the secret sauce on the success burger. If you decide to try something, give it 90 days or more before you decide it doesn’t work. The idea that it takes only 30 days to create/replace a habit is a fallacy that’s been repeated ad nauseum by the publishing industry because a) we all want a quick fix and b) because it sells books/programs. I’ll point you to James Clear on this point because he’s done the research, I’m just repeating it. 30 days is just long enough for you to begin to see results (depending on the habit), so keep going.

Thoughts? Questions? Comment below or send me an email: barbara@whathealthcoacheseat.com – I’d love to hear from you.